Purpose of activity: To find out how assertive we are
Life skills: Communication & interpersonal relationships, self-awareness, critical thinking
Assertiveness is about defending your right to what you want or need. Assertiveness requires two basic ways of communicating:
How to be assertive:
Many people find it difficult to be assertive because they don’t like conflict. They prefer to keep quiet and hope the conflict will go away. The problem is that the conflict does not go away. In addition, girls and women are often brought up not to be assertive.
It is also difficult to be assertive in some situations, for example, adolescents talking to older people. It is important to discuss with the group what are acceptable assertive behaviours with parents, teachers, religious leaders, elders etc.
Quiz: How assertive am I?
- If I disagree with a friend, I say so, even if it means they might not like me.
- I ask for help when I am hurt or confused.
- I do what I think is right, even if I know it may make me unpopular.
- I let people know when they disappoint me.
- If a friend borrows money and is late paying it back, I remind them.
- I say no when classmates want to copy my homework or test answers.
- If a friend is talking or making noise during class, I ask them to be quiet.
- If I have a friend who is always late, I tell them how I feel about it.
- I ask my friends for a favour when I need one.
- When someone asks me to do something that goes against my values, I refuse.
- I express my views on important things, even if others disagree.
- I don’t do dangerous things with my friends.
- When I don’t understand what someone is telling me, I ask questions.
- When it is clear that a point needs to be made and no one is making it, I say so.
- When people hurt my feelings, I let them know how I feel.
Do you have a friend who needs to learn to be more assertive? Explain. How can you help?