Close this search box.

LifeSkills Handbook Activity 58

This is a single activity session plan from The Lifeskills Handbook. There are 61 activity sessions altogether. The handbook is available from our resources section where you’ll also find downloadable storybooks, books and posters to help you in your work.

LifeSkills Handbooks Activity 58
Making a Stronger Me

Purpose of the activity: To create a tool which can be used to bring back good and strong feelings

Life skills activity: Self-awareness, Creative Thinking

Important Points: Do Activity 35: Fleet of Hope and Activity 36: Islands of the Future before this activity. Guidelines on what words the educator can actually use are shown in italics for this activity.


  1. Explain to children that there are methods to use in our minds to help lift our spirits and make us feel strong and positive when we are feeling low and weak. For example, in Activity 36: Islands of the Future, you drew an island that showed your ideas about your future. Your island of the future can help you feel better if you remember it when you are feeling sad. The picture can act as an ‘anchor’ to help tie you strongly to good, positive feelings.
  2. Explain that in this activity, they will create their own personal ‘anchor’ to bring back good feelings. Creating an anchor involves two things:
    • an unusual and special physical action like squeezing the thumb and little finger on your left hand together
    • Saying something quietly to yourself, like ‘be happy’ or ‘it will work out’. They can choose their own special words.
  3. Ask children to think of a difficult situation. What feelings would help these children make a decision that keeps them safe?
  4. Ask children to think of a situation in the past when they have been strong and said, ‘NO!’ Remember what it was like:

As you remember it, put yourself in that situation, and relive it as strongly as you can: see what you saw then, hear what you heard then, and feel what it is like to be strong and say ‘NO!’. As those feelings build up, do your special little action and say your special words.

To strengthen the anchor, picture your future island, imagine you are there. See what you see, hear the sounds and experience the good feelings of being there on your future island. As those good feelings ask stronger, do the special action and say the special words.

Final Discussion

  1. Ask children to strongly imagine a situation where they were in danger. Be aware of what is happening and how you feel. Then do your special action and say your special words.
  2. Ask children how they felt when they did this. Using the anchor should bring back feelings of being strong and able to say ‘NO’. This anchor can be used whenever you want or need those feelings, and it can have a powerful effect on helping you make good decisions in difficult situations.

Visit LifeSkills Handbook for more info or to buy your copy!